Hoping WAW will someday see through the fog....

[shellshockedga]

Coach, I certainly understand your concerns regarding the Thursday night agreement. I too have reservations about it, but am going to try and see how it goes. If it causes any confusion with the boys, then that will go away and we will move on to a more conventional (as far as that goes) transition.

The nesting concept is garbage long term, but for the moment it is what we are doing. I had to read your post several times before I realized what you were saying. That I am the person that needs to bring her back to reality. On Thursdays she will directly see the new me (attitude, clothes, looks etc..) During the week, I am limited in that capacity. I look at the week as my training time. I am a comeptitive swimmer, and just as i train for a big competition, I have now realized that this is my opportunity to train for the weekly big meet with her. After reading some of your old posts, today I went to the store and bought some new clothes. Ones that fit properly and look good on me. I am looking forward to wearing those on Thursday. Let her begin to see a new me. Next is changing my attitude. One of my freinds mentioned that she still can hear anger in my voice when I talk about the W. Thats ok with other people but I guess in truely detaching that should go away. I need to make sure that anger does not come across in any communications with her. Because I am fine, and am getting along just fine with out her. This first meeting will be awkward in that I really dont care to know what she has been up to. Perhaps the kids will provide a good gateway for conversation.

BTW, your suggestions about how to deal with my FB issues and her were spot on. I did a complete 180 and began posting some PMA. Within 4 minutes she responded. Something she normally would not do. As I have discussed at length with GIMA, I still have an issue with one of her divorced unemplyed male friends that seems to always respond to her posts within minutes of her posting. I realize that I should not let it bother me, and I wont show her that it does, but inside I cant stop the nagging feeling. I cant remove her as a friend, so these little posts are visable when I am on FB. I think this person does it just to be an a$$, but I have to better than that.