A couple of questions to all the LBS

[C-Bart]

How long has it been since the WAS was out of your life?

W is still very much part of my life, much to my chagrin. We have three kids that take precedence.

Now that you have moved on, are you in a better place mentally, since the WAS left?

I'm in better place mentally, physically and emotionally. I keep growing and changing everyday for me.

How much time did it take for you to get to this better mental place?

For me it took about at least a year so far. The first 8 months were a challenge but once I let go and figured out the sun still came up in the morning it started getting better. I still have my ups and downs though.

What do you miss the most & what are you glad to see gone?

Nothing but the sex. Up until recently it felt like we were in the same crappy relationship only without the sex. As there is still some resentment I'm holding onto my expectation is that will change and I'll be able to focus on other things that I miss.

Has the whole experience changed the way you view relationships? And how?
So this seems to be a theme with me today but, the way I view relationships is quite different. Before I believed R were about two people being together as one. As such I really gave everything I had to the R. In doing so I lost myself and my identity. Now I look at R as more of a partnership not a completion of one's self. My next serious R will have clearly defined boundaries, roles and expectations.