Yes we all do have to work through that but it is good to know going in if you have that 'opportunity' that there is work so that you aren't blindsided I guess. It sounds like it is a new set of challenges from what I read on the boards here.
I am the type that can let things go and move on for the most part, so I am optimistic I would be able to do it. It all depends upon what the WAWs 'bring' you as far as motivation to make amends and their actions.
In my situation I feel like I have held this together for the past year (partly by sheer stubborness and not giving in to her desire to split up) knowing that she is on the wrong path and might wake up eventually, and for the sake of our children.
We are getting close to the point of no return where I am starting to not care either way what happens, since the 'miracle' of her waking up hasn't happened. The waiting game is tiring.
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
