I asked for TIME. Something we BOTH agree is essential and played a big role to the break up of our family. And we say time, we both mean, good times, creation of happy memories, couple time as well as family time.
Maybe I should turn this around and ask him what exactly is he willing and able to do and see if that would be enough to at least drop the D and take it slow.
K
I know it is up to you, but I vote for this option. Ask him what he is willing to do, what ACTIONS he will take. And go from there.