I believe that in almost every case (never say never!), no matter what they have done, there is a part of us that will always love them. That's not to say we should be with them, or can be married to them. But I think it is normal to still love them, though perhaps in a different way.
It's ok to feel that way. And it's ok to feel that way, and still know that you need to D. It's ok, Maria.
Nothing is wrong with you, it is your H that has a screw loose! I know that ever you do, you will take your time and make sure that it is the right thing for you. And just so you know it is perfectly fine to change your mind at any point.
On a lighter note, why didn't you tell me that they have a day in Greece for my name?? Well maybe actually a saint but still cool!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I asked for TIME. Something we BOTH agree is essential and played a big role to the break up of our family. And we say time, we both mean, good times, creation of happy memories, couple time as well as family time.
Maybe I should turn this around and ask him what exactly is he willing and able to do and see if that would be enough to at least drop the D and take it slow.
K
I know it is up to you, but I vote for this option. Ask him what he is willing to do, what ACTIONS he will take. And go from there.
There is nothing wrong with you Maria. I am in the same boat, I know the M is over but I still love the stupid German.
The question is, do you trust him, or could you ever again?
There is no marriage without trust.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
If I want to change my mind, I will. This crazy Greek follows her gut feeling now.
Trust Lola? Dont know. Probably never the way I did. Enough? I have no idea.
Kat, there is a nameday for all names here... You didnt ask me, did you?
Bbj, I've decided I am staying quiet. I can wait another couple of weeks.
Jeff, I will always love him, part of me at least.There is no question about that. Could more parts of me love him? That is the question. After all, all he did was cheat on me. Like everybody else on this board (except your case). LOL... It's sad.(being sarcastic here) K
Thanks for checking in on me again. You did post twice, there were two or three rounds of people reading about my niece and you did the 1st and 3rd round!! Just means you are extra sweet to post again.
I never asked you if there was a name day for me but now I know. So when ever I get my rear in gear enough to get to Greece, I should go over that time. Oh, but wait, oldest son has a greek name too...when is the name day for Christopher?
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Pisces for this week Its judgment day as they say. The past cannot help but circle back as Mars in feeling Cancer opens your heart’s door unleashing that visceral response for someone. You are forced to re-visit its hold on you. You are also taking a second or third look at the growth of another and deciding whether they measure up, whether they have grown as they claim, whether you can work together well enough to make something new of this thing because the old was not holding water. Your week is about commitment to the growth of a relationship.
It is also about discernment, which means being painfully clear about what you need and being strong enough in yourself to go about making sure you get it this time.
This is a period in your life when you are being asked to work a little harder for something. It’s also not just about the literal physical effort, but about putting some heart and Soul into what you are attempting to accomplish. There has also been a little humbling going on which frankly is good for anyone because it keeps you clear about your blind spots and weak inner links. However, your ruler Mercury has just passed loving Venus and will join serious Saturn on Thursday, October 8 which bodes well for climbing your way out of a hole and up that mountain. What you are being reminded of most now has not a thing to do with what money can buy but the things you value most, those things in life that feed your Soul.
Create a game plan and take action. Results guaranteed.
Like everybody else on this board (except your case). LOL... It's sad.(being sarcastic here)