my wife said she read the first two chapters of DR

[Forrest Gump]

"I have not followed your sitch but have you contacted a lawyer? You need to find out your rights...praying for you and your kids"

Yes, this would be priority #1 if not already addressed.

"well after the big fight with her dad. detaching is going to be much easier. sad i cant even talk to my kids."

I will say this as clear as I can... Write down what is going on. Keep a log.. keep a journal. What you pay.. what is said by her.. so on and so on. Leave out the "Emotional" parts of it.. like..

9/25/09 W called wanted me to ship things too her. Advised her did not have money.

9/25/09 FIL (Father In Law) called told me not to call wife/kids. W blocked my number.

Keep it simple and to the point.. make sure it is dated at least.. times are even better if you have them.

Might not be a bad idea to look back and write down what you can remember.

[texasbobby]

thanks for the input.

[texasbobby]

i think my sitch is looking hopeless. i think im done; she choose her father over me.

[sumguy27]

TB, I think you just have to have some time and give her some space if you really want to work at it. You have got to start doing some 180's and just go dark. What I had to learn myself is to stop blaming my wife's friends. Yes they may have some influence in the situation but they don't really control the situation. You've got to just sit back and let her come to her own senses. It took me awhile to get to this point also. I know its hard and it kills you deep inside slowly. Also its only up to you if you want to say its done or over with. If the next day you tell yourself to keep trying then your not done yet. It's been taking me about a month to realize my own situation that GAL is for myself. Its the best thing to do to not dwell on your R. I know its easier said then done. But if you don't contact her at all she might begin to wonder what you are doing. Its going to take time bro just hang in there if you want to.

[texasbobby]

since she has blocked my phone number,cause i didnt want to decuss divorce stuff with her, i havent been able to talk to my kids for quite a few days now. wtf . y childish games? to keep them from me is hurting them . she always said she would never do this . now im pissed and to the point i could care less.

[brownidmom]

TB~ you need to call your attorney now. He/she should be able to contact her attorney for some arrangement with talking to your kids. And for visitation if this goes forward. You can give up on the M all you want, but don't give up on your kids!

[texasbobby]

never would give up on my kids, or marriage for that matter. the attorney hasnt called me back. i would really like my marriage to work ,but like her mother told me as long as her father is supporting her she isnt going to.