Is my wife a WAW or is this a MLC? thx2brs

[are you kidding]

There really is no right way when dealing with this is there, but a whole lot of wrong ways isn't there.

Jack thanks for keeping it simple.

So she emails me, if not kid or bill related I do nothing right?

I haven't emailed her today to see if her car was fixed:)

[Jack_Three_Beans]

I haven't emailed her today to see if her car was fixed:)

Can you tell me why, from our experience this would be a bad idea?

So she emails me, if not kid or bill related I do nothing right?

IF she emails you, KISS the response.
Thank you. Yes. No. I understand.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

I need to look at it from a MLC'ers eyes not mine when I do communicate, where I think I'm being nice, they see it as an attack, so I need to jump over the fence and look at it as if I were her how would I see it.

it's a random thought, but does it make sense until I fix myself?

You can, if it helps you.

[are you kidding]

She's watching me, like I'm watching her, so neither one of are going to get better, she's getting meaner, because I'm not letting her freer and I'm being more of a victim because I'm watching her.

So until I get all the way out of the way, she isn't going to be able to get what she needs to get thru and neither will I.

Her being free is different than my being free, I need to free myself to myself and kids.

Is that a correct thought?
Let her watch me,but i don't watch her.

[are you kidding]

[quote]
I haven't emailed her today to see if her car was fixed:)

Can you tell me why, from our experience this would be a bad idea?

She would see it as an attack and doesn't want my help and thinks i'm responsible for her car being in the shop and i would be adding salt to her wound and if i did email her she's going to come back with something else hurtful or ignore the email all togther.
It's none of my business. See we have a second car that yesterday she emailed that said i need to do something with tha car.told her i'd get it gone, and my dad picked it up today.

[cat04]

AYK,

Can you, just for a while, treat her like an acquaintance, or a business associate, and just worry about you?

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Your answer works for me Kidding.

[are you kidding]

yeah,that's when i get in trouble,she'll walk up and jump down my throat.it's not best for me to be around her,she's too mean.

[are you kidding]

But it's my fault it's like that, she has every right to be furious, look at what i've done the last couple of weeks.

I'd be flipping furious myself if i thought someone was talking about me!

[cat04]

Wow this thread moves faster than a blink of an eye somedays.

I like the answer too Kidding.