Looks like I might soon be LBS...newcomer here

[brownidmom]

Yes, fixing the way he was dealing with the boys about our sitch is most important.

H fixed the ceiling fan/exhaust in the master bath last night, had been making a terrible, screeching sound for the longest. Came home from Home Depot and said he was going to have to call someone because previous homeowner had made it too difficult to take it out. After about an hour of noises, voila, H made it all better. I was thrilled because without an exhaust fan, I have to clean out the shower extra due to added moisture causing mildew. I didn't want to go overboard, so I just said thanks last night and told him this morning that it worked like a charm while I was in the shower.

I am enjoying the heck out of focusing more of my efforts on the boys and myself. Life gets mundane because of routine, so I have been making little adjustments here and there to just live in the moment, mostly just adjusting my focus really.

I will work on not pursuing. H allows himself around me, sleeps in the same bed, showers in the same bathroom, etc. He even sat down at the computer after his shower this morning before putting on his drawers! Very hard not to react sometimes.

BTW, Change your Life and Everyone in It is another great book by MWD! Check it out!