Thank you guys, printed off posts and highlighted and I have all kinds of post it notes.
I need to get back to work on myself and i need to realize that i'm not going to change overnight.
I need to look at it from a MLC'ers eyes not mine when I do communicate, where I think I'm being nice, they see it as an attack, so I need to jump over the fence and look at it as if I were her how would I see it.
it's a random thought, but does it make sense until I fix myself?