Depressive WAW or Depressive MLC?- both with an EA

[Ready2Change]

First, I am reading your thread. Others are as well, but may not be posting. If you need more support, visit other peoples threads and offer your support. IE: Read other threads and post support there, they will reciprocate.

I use every interaction with MsR2C (as well as others) as a "Mirror". When I judge her actions, I reflect on my own selfish behavior.

I will expand on this. We all behave in selfish ways. Me, you , and our (ex)spouses. My ex wife (Miss ReadytoChange : MsR2C) will behave in ways that I do not understand. I also behave in ways that I feel are normal and acceptable, but the ex-wife believes I am behaving inappropriately. If I can delay my reactions to her strange behavior and "Put myself in her shoes" to help understand why she may be behaving a certain way, I gain a clearer vision of the truth. I am then compassionate and forgive her. By doing this, I no longer fuel the fire. She can call me whatever names she wants and it does not affect me. I know she is angry. She focuses her negative energy at me, but I do not accept it. I stay happy and feel sorry that she is angry. I can then walk away and continue to be happy.