I agree with Jack trapt. Many people here in piecing are struggling. Although they have their marriages back on paper, there is spying, snooping, residual pain, etc. I've seen so many returnees simply because a bandaid was applied and the necessary deeper work was never done.

At the risk be being repetitive, it's a painful lesson to go through for ALL of us, but, the insight gained is INVALUABLE. You've only failed when you haven't learned and applied the lessons of life garnered thru this process.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;