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[dl443322]

Hey T, thinking of you and hoping you are doing well. Give me a call sometime.

[cat04]

Yea T,

Just call it's easier LOL.

I'm doing good. Thanks for asking.

[fisherman]

Hey about that update....

It may take me a few days. It's a little difficult to put into words. I know exactly where I am with myself, my children, my ex and everything else, but I need to take a little time to put it all down in writing.

I have been divorced now for 6 months, so as far as my marriage goes, there is nothing to save. I am a bit hesitant about sharing a few things for this reason. Many here are not in the same place as I am.

I would hate to have someone get the wrong idea, or take away anything that I post and have them not be in the same position. So I need to find a good way to express all this and it's not that easy at the moment. I'm sure it will come to me though and I think it is a good idea anyway to stop and evaluate and get it out there as well.

Talk to ya soon.

[fisherman]

Hey B!!!

I will do that!

LOL! You're right Cat, it would be much easier wouldn't it?

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Success is not defined as 'marriage busted'. Alot of people here can say 'marriage busted' but really? Did they do the work to improve themselves? Some of those stories you feel are going to be back here in a few year with the spouse going, "What went wrong?"

Trapt, you are a success, you aren't the same kid that came here, now you are good for yourself and anyone else lucky...yes lucky enough to be a part of your life.

[faithisbelieving]

I agree with Jack trapt. Many people here in piecing are struggling. Although they have their marriages back on paper, there is spying, snooping, residual pain, etc. I've seen so many returnees simply because a bandaid was applied and the necessary deeper work was never done.

At the risk be being repetitive, it's a painful lesson to go through for ALL of us, but, the insight gained is INVALUABLE. You've only failed when you haven't learned and applied the lessons of life garnered thru this process.

FIB

[fisherman]

Well thank you kind Sir in more ways than one. That means a lot.

This will definitely change a person for the better and I am thankful in a way to have walked what I've walked, and to still be walking in a sense. Growth must never stop.

This had to happen. I don't know what the future will bring, but I do feel as though this HAD to happen.

[fisherman]

I think it's more a matter of choice or perspective rather than our blessings being disguised.

[frank_D]

I've seen so many returnees simply because a bandaid was applied and the necessary deeper work was never done.

I agree, my situation is one of those. I ended up much worse off the second time because I didn't do the work the first time.

[dl443322]

T, my friend, you have grown and learned in ways that many here will never do.

It is in the way we walk this journey that success is measured. You have done it well.

And remember, I always have your back. These guys don't scare me one bit.