I think I'm getting better at it. I know its a slow process but yes I completely understand what you are saying. I just have to be a lot tougher and not give in to her.
Me:27 W:24 S:2 D:9 months M:3 years Together for 8 years Bombed : 6/11/09 Moved out: 6/27/09 Found out about her affair 9/7/09 (she started her's at 6/25/09) Begged n plead 7/25/09 started DB 8/17/09
Actually you're in the perfect position to show that you have a life without her.
Robx is right. DO NOT make things easy for her. If she can't handle the kids, too bad. She can't pawn them off on your mom. She's your mom not hers. If she wants to live life on her own, then it's time for her to put on her big girl panties and do it.
You should definitely not have helped her with the oil. You helped her and then what? Has she been nicer to you? Nope. Don't reward bad behavior.
Continue not answering all of her calls. In fact, a few times when she does call, take it outside as if you were in a restaurant or club, then tell her you can't hear her. Tell her that you hope she's doing well and then you'll talk to her later, then hang up.
She'll get angry, but so what? She can't control you anymore right? That's what you want to show her. Plus you're giving her what she asked for.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
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You Cheated on your wife. And now you are giving her a hard time checking her oil for her? why?
What is there to be confused about? She has told me numorous times that she doesn't need me or need any of my help at all. I was the WAS and came back to my senses and now she is the WAW. So your saying because I had a affair I'm suppose to just do whatever she asks? That doesn't make sense to me at all.
Me:27 W:24 S:2 D:9 months M:3 years Together for 8 years Bombed : 6/11/09 Moved out: 6/27/09 Found out about her affair 9/7/09 (she started her's at 6/25/09) Begged n plead 7/25/09 started DB 8/17/09
Why am I giving her a hard time on checking her oil? Because she said she is independent and doesn't ever need me for anything. She doesn't need help from me ever. She wants nothing from me and to only talk just about the kids and thats it. Because that vehicle is her responsibilty and if she has so many questions about it I guess I should have just told her to bring it to her OM to do it besides me. Did I answer your questions? Or what are you trying to get at?
Me:27 W:24 S:2 D:9 months M:3 years Together for 8 years Bombed : 6/11/09 Moved out: 6/27/09 Found out about her affair 9/7/09 (she started her's at 6/25/09) Begged n plead 7/25/09 started DB 8/17/09
Continue not answering all of her calls. She'll get angry, but so what?
Last night she did call me and it was kind of late. I didn't pick up right away as i was in the bathroom. I came out and saw she called and had called her back. Right away she starts off by saying how come I never answer my phone anymore? I told her that I have been busy. She then said she had called me 3 or 4 times in a row and I picked up and hung up on her yesterday. I never even got a call from her at all and just told her that. I then asked her what she wanted. She said she has a manditory meeting friday morning and could not take the kids till Sunday. I said that's fine. It got silent for a good minute and she said "well if you need any of there stuff call me and let me know ok." I just responded "ok bye."
Her tone in her voice is different now. Its not the usual how do you describe it, the FU! atitude tone. Its more of a scared needy tone now.
Me:27 W:24 S:2 D:9 months M:3 years Together for 8 years Bombed : 6/11/09 Moved out: 6/27/09 Found out about her affair 9/7/09 (she started her's at 6/25/09) Begged n plead 7/25/09 started DB 8/17/09
