Is my wife a WAW or is this a MLC? thx2brs

[ClingingToHope]

What book would someone recommend on control issues and good communication?

Try "His needs and her needs" and "Boundaries." "Love Languages" is good too.

In one of your posts, you said something about trying to be the hero and having it turned against you. That's my situation. For the past five years I tried to do all the housework, the finances, the driving around of the kids, all to lessen her stress.

Instead, she thought it was all a ploy to either give her no excuses not to have sex or make her so dependant on me that she couldn't leave me.

I was leaving her no room in the marriage for herself. If we can ever find our way back to each other, I hope to just ask her every day, "what do you need from me today?"

If it's to clean something, I'll do it. If it's to pick someone up, that's fine. If I get a chance again, I will not ASSUME I know what's best for her except on rare occasions.