I wrote him a letter saying how I felt about everything, I let him know that I love him and have forgiven him and that I would be prepared to work things out, I also said that I wanted him but realized that I did not need him, I think part of him leaving was he felt too needed and honestly I realized that I can cope on my own but I really don't want to ..
FH,
I'm wondering why you pursued him with a letter, and if that is the best way to go? Your WORDS are saying "I realize that I don't need you" but your ACTIONS (pursuit via letter) speaks otherwise.
Unilaterally granting forgiveness, when he hasn't ASKED for it, is probably premature.
