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[billclay18]

2) I could forget about the D, etc. engage with the kids and focus on moving on with my life.

Yes.

Since she already perceives that I'm moving forward I will have to take some bigger steps.

How do you know this?

Purchase new house, maybe some dating OW, etc.

By OW...do you mean the OW? Assuming that's not what you mean, not sure that's a great idea anyway. If you want to date because you've moved on, fine. But you clearly haven't. I sense for you it's more of a tit-for-tat thing.

Purchase a new house? Not a good idea with your financial future up in the air.