Briefly, if it doesn't involve the kids or "business issues"
I IGNORE IT AND DO NOT RESPOND TO HER?
IF I NEED SOMETHING I ASK HER?Like hey can I grab a winter coat?
Work on myself, which, these are my issues,I lose patience,my self esteem is shot, I embellish when I get anxious with her, and I don't know how to speak without sounding self centered and I have control issues,I am too generous to a fault.
And yes she has already used the you didn't do before,now you are,etc.
And yes I'm a deadbeat parent she said because I'm only taking the kids for a couple hrs at a time.