Sorry to hear that etrain. I was in and out of MC with my W for months. During that whole time my w was completely unenthusiastic. Remember that MC can only work if both parties want to work at fixing the M. It can't convince her to do the work if she is on the fence re the M.
Also, I believe you talked about there being the chance of an EA in your sitch. MC can't work if there is an active 3rd party relationship. When the EA in my sitch was revealed, our MC stopped the sessions (and switched to IC with me) because he said "We can't proceed if there is a 3rd party in the picture"
This doesn't mean it is over, by any means. I stopped MC after 4 or 5 sessions in January. We restarted and went back a few times later after the EA was over, but stopped again because my w still didn't want to work at it - seeing working at it as a commitment to the R she didn't want to make. The end of MC, however, did not mean the end of the M or the end of DB. We're still going and, if we get to the point where it is appropriate, I'll suggest that we go back.
My point is, don't put too much emphasis on and get too worried about the MC sessions. Focus on your DB efforts.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
