I need advice. My gut is wrenching. Last night W, who is still in Arizona, called daycare provider, also a mutual friend of ours, to ask how the girls were doing. She told her that she called her to not upset the girls. If that was her concern, why wouldn't she just call me at work or after the girls go to bed? WTH is going on? A week ago she is telling me she wants to be a family again, we are ML, and things were great. Today she can't even call me to find out how the kids are doing? I don't get it.
The last time we talked was good. I said goodbye with a passionate kiss. I said have a safe trip. After that, I set up a MC session and left a VM to tell her when it was. There has been no communication since.
I want to text her something. Maybe just something simple: "Hope all is well. Have a safe trip." (she is flying back today). I would really like to invite her over to see the girls when she arrives, but I don't know how late her flight arrives. Plus I know that it would be taken as pursuing. However, is the text a bad idea?
Can someone give me a reasonable explanation of what is going through her head. My mind is wandering to bad places right now.
Needy, clingy, pursuing, ring a bell? All unattractive, insecure traits, all will make her run away from you.
Do these things and drive her away.
You can't control her, let her do what she wants to do. You can only control you.
If she is contacting OM, what can you do about it anyways?
Remember, you weren't going to set boundaries about the OM until marriage counselling and you were still waffling on that one too.
No contact, let her contact you.
I hope you will listen to this one, it will make a difference.
