OMG with the sleeping and exhaustion. On his off days, my H has not spent more than 4-6 hours up and out of bed. Although I know he is awake more in his room, he has been just too tired to be up. They are avoiding the interaction and the thinking. It is part of the process as they move down their road.
Take it as a break for you. For your brain. We all analzye probably way too much. But in time, you can find a place where it doesn't wipe you out. Where you can see it, note it, and go on with your day.
The blinders need to be off IMO. Having a live in is really hard and really trying on everyone involved. But if the blinders are on, then when something is revealed, it is like going back to bomb day. With them off, you can see, know, and hopefully maintain yourself. For me, I feel it is a necessary part to my process. If I didn't see it every day, I don't know if I would believe it is what it is. I don't know if I would still be standing. I don't know if I wouldn't simply hate H for all of this.
MJ, still waiting for your thread...LOL
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
