Thank you so much for your kind posts !! You truly are wonderful people...and you all deserve the very best in life !!!
H and ow are still together and seem very happy. I am thankful that ow is kind to our children. I do see that H has all the say in their relationship and that ow has just had to take it. But you know what...she does..and as long as she is willing to do that, then they will be happy together.
I don't think H has come out of the fog...I don't know if he ever was 'in' the fog...he just sees life differently I guess, and feels that we get along better this way (which we do, but it has taken lots of work and patience from both of us - something I used to feel would have been put to better use as in working on OUR relationship as a couple..- but that is in the past now).
We are good, and communicative parents now for our children and on some level even friends...I am fine with that. The pain has subsided, the heart ache and the anger are gone....
He still respects my wishes of not wanting to see ow or have her in my life..(as I'm sure ow finds extremely frustrating by now).
Of course I do realize that with me finding new love comes a lot of relief of guilt on H'side and he may now start pushing his relationship more in my nose, but I am now stronger, healed and more prepared for what is to come. Not because I have met this new wonderful man, but because time and positive thinking helped me get back on my own two feet again !
Life doesn't always turn out as we expect it to..and this is never going to be how I would have preferd it, but it doesn't mean that it may not turn out great !!
I know how hard this is to read when you just get here and only want your spouse to come back home...so I do not want to push and say that you have to see it my way...all I want is to give you all the hope of a good, bright and happy future...however it turns out !!!
Take care dear friends xxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
