I think this is an episode of just words from the WAW - a testing of the water if you like. I feel that she will not go through with staying in the family home, and has only has reacted to me meeting up with an old female friend who she perceives as a threat to her having me pining for her at home alone.
The WAW has asked a lot of questions about my friend, and now I realize as a fool I have tried to allay any fears that something may spark between me and my old friend.
I should have played it a little cooler in telling my WAW about how me and my friend interact and at what level. I foolishly gave in to the fear of angering my WAW about my friendship and any effect it would have upon my relationship with my WAW.
I now realize that this seed of doubt in my WAW's mind could have been the catalyst to shift my WAW's focus from herself to what I am doing - and of how I may be moving on and creating a life w/o my WAW.
I tried to play down the possibility of my friend going out with me and my boys to see a firework display at the weekend, even though - and I am kicking myself black and blue over this - it transpired that the WAW's EA had bought tickets for the same firework display on the same night in the same block of seats for them to enjoy.
It seems that it would be ok for her to spend good quality time with him , but when I asked if she would like to go with me and the boys - I know I backslid - she turned it down.
Smelly brown stuff to this !!!!
If I have read this correctly, it would be in my interests to ramp up my friendship a little to germinate the seed of doubt and take a little of the initiative away from my WAW.
Some of the WAW's who have been brave enough to post on this forum have indicated that they preferred to see strength of will and decisive action from their LBS.
I must admit to failing this test of strength, but only because I was trying to avoid further conflict and jeopardize any future re consolidation.
What do I do ?!
This is one hell of a game of poker. Win - you win the woman you love Lose - heartbreak hotel..................
Advice from WAW or possible WAW's would be of great help.
Has anyone else gone through this part of a relationship and has any advice.........
HELP
Regards, Gynandtonix.
Cause all of the stars, Have faded away, Just try not to worry, You'll see them someday. Take what you need, And be on your way and, Stop crying your heart out.
