\ what does your H do for a living? Sounds like he is bringing his work home with him by making comments like that. What kind of role model is he referring to? The drill sergeant at boot camp role model? Good grief! I feel for you. BTW, I second what GIMA said above. Take care.
Well that is an interesting point, BJ. He works for himself - he's a genius computer programmer. He works from home (wherever that is lately). Lately, he works until all hours of the night. Work never ends for him. I don't know if it's to pay for his new apt or just to keep busy.
I have wondered if it is a workaholic syndrome to avoid feelings or if he is truly that overburdened with work. I have a lot of empathy - he is a reliable provider and hard worker. However, he also admitted tonight that his stress levels have gotten so high he is thinking of going to a psychiatrist for a prescription to tranquilizers.
He has always had this anxiety problem - overly perfectionistic, over achiever - heck it's one of the reasons I fell in love with him early on - he accomplishes so much. However, lately I have come to feel so shut out by it all and he can't see the forest for the trees as he complains he never gets a second off. Is he just hiding from himself and his pain? I don't know.
On the other hand, he is the main breadwinner (I am the main homemaker and parent, and make about 15-20% of our income) so I understand the financial pressure is on his shoulders. I just wish he could relax sometimes and let his guard down. He can't just do it around me - he can't do it much at all.
