I'll have to agree w/ sandi overall, despite my previous post. All that stuff is nice but if she's not ready for it, it WILL backfire. I know from experience. It's a difficult thing to gauge, though. Like sandi said, confidence is important. You may not feel it right now. Fake it till you make it, though and you will start to feel better about yourself. Don't be cocky, either.

~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)