I'm new wondering if this works...

[BigJohn]

H went off on a lecture as to why "the real world" works on deadlines with no slack - a constant criticism that I'm not in the "real world". Very hurtful. H said it would be a better role model for Z if I were more organized. I had to explain that for the one or two things he notices that slipped through the cracks, I'm organizing my son and my life every day. I get a lot of things done.

Hope,

I may have missed this in your earlier posts- what does your H do for a living? Sounds like he is bringing his work home with him by making comments like that. What kind of role model is he referring to? The drill sergeant at boot camp role model? Good grief! I feel for you. BTW, I second what GIMA said above. Take care.