Looking for some advice from the DBers out there. One of my W's complaints is that I did not show enough affection. I have been doing the loving detachment thing which has helped to relax things at home so much. Are there some small things that I could do to show affection that would not be considered "pursuing"? I know flowers, gifts etc. are out but just want her to know that I care w/o putting any pressure on. I read in another post that a womans's top need is affection and with OM in the picture, I just feel like I need to show something. This is so not easy and I am having trouble finding that line between loving detachment and feeling like I am sending signals that I don't care.
