Newbie.....dealing with a MLC'er....

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Drew, I am sorry your S has to deal with this, and you, too.

I think I made the best possible decisions for my D of about the same age. I did not date. I have had her stay with babysitters, but for the most part, I tried to keep some focus on her. I think kids need to know that they are important to the adults in their lives and not feel as if they are not wanted. My STBXH still makes it clear that his work is most important things, followed by OW/OG.

STBXH did improve as a parent. Try to encourage parenting time if you can. That said, D is simply not his focus.