New to this Community seeking advice

[ClingingToHope]

I'm sure my W is also doing some soul searching herself. How much longer...I try to stay strong. I really try. Today was just hard seeing all these couples together.

It's tough when you are surrounded by a bunch of supposedly happy couples. One thing I've learned is that there are a lot of fakers in the married world. My W and I always put on a good front around others -- and then we'd have these awkward silences on the way home because neither of us was happy.

I hope your W is doing some soul searching. I'm not sure mine is. She's so wrapped up in her work and proving she can make it on her own I don't know if she has time.

One piece of advice others have given you is good. Leave her alone. That's hard isn't it. You just want to drive up there and make a grand speech and win her heart again.

The grand gesture was always my mistake. I used it several times early in the marriage when we were struggling and it just lost its effectiveness. Now, it works in reverse.

Question on divorce proceedings -- it can be just dismissed for inactivity? Was she really pushing for it and then stopped doing anything?