Any Way the Wind Blows

[Mach1]

Not so much as "trying" to not focus on him as it is just focusing on you.....

It is a shift in focus...

It is part of living your life.

I have always said that "true" detachment is when you do something , not to induce a reaction, but regardless of the reaction...

I'm not looking for any great changes if what you are doing is working.

I just know that MLC'ers tend to NOT let you get too far away from them....

And part of the tactic is to pull you back when they feel you slipping away.

While I'm rambling, what I'm trying to get across ( and doing a terrible job) is that......

Don't let his madness spin you....

[Storm Rider]

I do get what you are saying and I do agree. I just like to paraphrase to make sure I get it.

Focus on bit more detachment around H. Find a better balance between keeping the connection and detachment.

Thanks very much for sharing your thoughts, been most helpful.

[Fallgirl]

Hi SR! No need to post-just wishing you well and hope you`re having fun today!

[trustingfaith]

I too was just thinking of you and wanting to check in and say hi, SR. Hope you are doing well.

[Storm Rider]

Thanks for droping in Guys,

I did some serious GALing to get my head in a good place:

-brought an ENTIRE new summer wardrobe including shoes and accessories. Best buy this season french label sun dress $160 reduced to $20.

- went solo off roading in my car, major dust raising and fun.

- major cleaning house for Hs family that has been staying for a week. Went very well, some very fun times, like old times.

Just winding down now so will be back later. Still a little over the whole sitch but seeing progress in the right direction still.

[drewnole]

Mach,


In what ways do the MLC'ers suck you back in? In my sitch, I've felt like my MLC'er would try to get me to feel some compassion. She would tell me about how sick she was on a few occassions and how she had to leave work due to her 'illness'.

[Mach1]

Drew,

Remember that MLC is graced with massive amounts of confusion.

Most MLC'ers don't want you, but they don't want you too far away either....

It is the confusion talking most of the time....

But there will be things that they say or do to not let you get too far away from them....

The anger won't last, nor will the other things....

Some refer to it as the bounce...up one minute and down the next. It is a normal part of their process and it can't affect your path...

It's hard to not get caught up in the process for them, the things they are doing and the things that you watch for.

That is the toughest part....and it can keep YOU stuck trying to figure it out......

What ever happens, needs to happen Drew.

Right now, you should focus on you backing away from her, and find your path.

There is a peace that comes with that, and you can still do that with love...

[Grace_O]

Best buy this season french label sun dress $160 reduced to $20.

Score!

House cleaning <sigh>. I need to be right there with you.

Glad you had a good time.

[trustingfaith]

SR,

Glad you are still seeing forward progress and that you have been having a good time!

[Fallgirl]

Congrats SR! You can`t beat retail therapy! Esp clothes shopping! Now, why hasn`t MWD mentioned that in her books?!

You sound great and, the more I read about some of you posters heading off on road trips(and posting great pics on FB) the more I`m feeling the push to do the same!

Actually, I frequently feel like emigrating almost anywhere else just to escape from this station!

House and Spouse swap anyone?!