Morning Everyone, Feeling great today...Keep me in mind because today just may be the turning point...
Side note: My son (12) had to write a personal broacher about himself. Under his heroes he wrote:
"I think my Dad is heroic. He lost his leg and he's a volunteer cop. He doesn't get paid and he can be in pretty dangerous situations, it’s cool that even though he lost his leg, he still goes into one of the most dangerous jobs, and with no pay"
He also had a category of what is hot and what is not he wrote:
what is Hot: Not poor I have a dog I have 2 parents
What is not: I’m shy I have homework I have to do P.E
What a kid. If he only knew what I have really done.Loosing my leg was the easy part... Send allot of positive vibes my way today friends
Welcome to my future The Love Doctor is in the building
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
[/quote]Welcome to my future The Love Doctor is in the building cool[quote]
You positive attitude is ABSOLUTELY AWSOME Doc!!!!
Keep up the great thoguhts and work on staying out of the comfort zone.
Things are going pretty good for me right now since I strayed from my comfort zone with confrontation. I have set boundries for me and so far Im'e doing well with them.
Who knows maybe a turn around for both of us.
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
If he only knew what I have really done.Loosing my leg was the easy part...
Hey Doc, You think he doesn't know? Even if he doesn't know the gory details - I'm certain that the positive changes in you shine forth from you every day. He sees those, and at some level - he DOES get it.
You're an example to that kid - of how to live, how to keep on going and be a happy person in spite of the bad stuff that inevitably comes into every life. I can't think of a better gift for a parent to pass along to their children, can you?
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
You positive attitude is ABSOLUTELY AWSOME Doc!!!!
Thanks JoJo,Rob and YoYo..(Try saying that 3 times really fast) JoJo I am trying to keep up the pos att. something happened that I don't want to go into here. It was not a bad thing. In fact it was kind of good. I had an idea and she told me what she thought about it (kind of judgmental but still she did respond. ANYWAY she has agreed to read the first chapter of PM. with the attached statement. “I hate self help books they are just a person’s opinion” She started reading it right away and now has become really quiet. Not sure if she is thinking about it which I hope was the issue or if she is mad because I again asked her to do something she does not want to do. Either way I can’t let her affect my attitude. I am trying to keep positive but I am beginning to think in reality she is just stalling time. Wants ME to be the one to end it.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Hey, maybe time to take a break now from trying to get W to change. Focus on yourself...
To I was NOT trying to change her. I was trying to help her with her low self esteem. I Did NOT say she had to read this book and do what it said. I simply asked her read it just like if you’re H was an alcoholic and you ask him to read some stuff about how it affects his health and the family. That’s all just information she can use it or chouse not to..
Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Compare: "I've read PM and gotten a lot out of it in terms of X,Y and Z" which might inspire W to read it for her own reasons, and "Please read PM to get the information you need [loudly unstated -- to be who I want you to be.]
Report about yourself. Work on your own emotional health. Work on your own changes. You are shifting your focus to fixing W's problems to her. Not helpful.
