Young couple in need of help

[sumguy27]

Just journaling for myself.

So yesterday I got a phone call from the W around the afternoon. I didn't pick up. She finally leave's me a voicemail. She tell's me she is going to drop off son to me because he is too much for her to handle at the moment. I didn't call back and just finish up on my cleaning. She calls back again and I didn't pick. So I decided after 20 mins to call her back. She told me she had called my mother already and is going to drop my son off to her. I asked what was going on with him. "He poured water all over my bathroom, and he is talking back and swearing at me." I just told her to drop him off to me instead. I wanted to bring it to her attention that maybe if she stoped swearing around him he wouldn't say those words. But I kept my mouth shut.

She shows up calls me and says can I get a napkin so she can check her oil. So I go to her car and I give her the napkin and she said can you do it? So I checked her oil. Low and behold there is barely any in there. I said you are dry. "And I told you already that you have to do a oil change." So I begin to take son out of his car seat and she then said "well aren't you going to take me to get some oil?" I was puzzled. Like huh? She said she had put some in last friday by herself why the heck did she need me to go with her? I said fine.

We pull up to Target.

W: I'm I just going to drop you off?

M: What are you serious? No. (she thought I was going to be my old self and run inside and buy the oil for her)

w: fine.

So she parks and we both get out and I grab my son. She's walking a head and i told her aren't you going to grab a basket? She grabs one and finally realizes it that I'm not going to buy her anything. So she starts shopping. Grabbing chips and movies (she grabed "The Break Up" and I started to chuckle to myself) We get to the automotive isle and she said well which one do I get? I told her 5w 30w and you can pick any brand you like. I told her to grab 4 just in case.

We get to the parking lot and she opens her hood. I stand there and watch. She is trying to loosen the oil cap with only a 3 finger grip. She looks at me and said," arent you going to help me? It took me 10mins friday to even open this." I said "oh come on you can do it." Seeing her struggle for a few minutes I took my plam and loosen it for her. She pours a full quart in without even checking the dipstick. She opened up another one and I told her to stop. I checked and she was a quarter too much.

I told her that she needs to get the oil change done instead of just refilling it. That the vehicle also needs a rotate and balance.

W: How long is that going to take? So I have to wait there?

M: Well yeah if your frist in line probably like a 1 hour.

w: Where I'm I suppose to go?

M: Pick a place and just go. Its not that hard. Well got To Tires Plus that is where I bought the tires so you can use the free rotate and balance.

w: I don't want to sit there forever?

M: Now you know what I do for you when I had to take care of both of the cars.

I grab my son and she tried again to prolong my conversation with her. I grab his stuff and just kind of ignored her and then she said "well ok bye."

I just don't get it. She has said many times. I don't need you for anything and I don't want to talk to you about anything but the kids. She knows I'm a gear head and our last 2 conversations other then the kids have been about her car. Is this her way of trying to communicate with me other then the kids? Is she starting to loosen up a bit? I have no clue. I feel like I have distance myself further away from her and I think she can sense it.