K.. could you give him a chance? I believe him. He doesnt love her, he is NOT sleeping with her again, he probably never loved her (despite the excitement of the first 6 months of the A, he might've thought he did then, but its possible to look back and think, WTF was I thinking?? I never loved them!...I should know, I've had that experience myself!). Remember my bf said the exact same thing, he didnt want to tell her ANYTHING about me when it ended, it wasnt about me, it was about her, that it wasnt right with her. Thats what your H said. So, I just think its not that relevant, but you do have to take a leap of faith that its done and they wont be in contact.. as I had to (and their companies are in business together).
I know you are angry, hurt, p*ssed off and tired. But you could finally get what you've been fighting for for 3 years !? Maybe you would end up with a rock solid M. And yes it would be hard to mend, really hard. But D is hard. Being a single Mum is hard. Dating random new guys and introducing them to your kids is hard. Remember I said we had paid our dues by September and you would KNOW by end October which was this is going to go and be out of limbo. You got to jump one way or the other now!
xxx ps.. yes yes, I know, I'm crazy. Me and your 'moderate' gf hey.
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
