Hey M! So many things I would like to say, but for now (as I am supposed to be working, hahaha).. thank you SOOOO much for a fab time, you really looked after us. And bf doesnt thikn you are a bitch !!!! He thinks you are lovely (yep, sorry!) funny, really really nice, just how he imagined you would be from the things I told him and very cool. We didnt want to leave! He also hopes you can give your H another try, if you arent done with him (he doesnt think you are...)
Really lovely to see you at last! Oh and... its FREEZING here!! We had 2 duvets on the bed last night.
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
You are welcome Ali... You are always welcome to come back. (May things to say?)
I am sorry it's freezing there. It's lovely weather here today... Ohh and the socialists (my party) won the elections with 10,5 points difference!!! LOL! Anyway, hope you are adjusting to reality smoothly. M
Say hi to A from me. My kids asked if you would be here when they come back today...
and back to my news...: stbxH has withdrawn completely. Doesnt call as he used to, only talks to the kids when I am not at home, came by our suburb (very close to my house) to vote yesterday and didnt come by, changed the passwords to his email accounts that he knew I had since August, he just called to say that he is taking the kids home and ended the call before I had a chance to say bye (weird), and in general, I feel he is again distancing from me and probably in contact with her.
You see, after what has happened, he doesnt want to be a liar again, and talking to her means he cant talk to me. And this behaviour is while he says he is trying to find a way to convince me to try to reconcile... Whatever... K
Yep, he's running. Crawling into the hole he has dug for himself. I would imagine he probably sees no way out of the situation so has retreated to lick his wounds.
Don't expect him to peek out again for quite some time. Now that he has been called on all his bad behavior and you have stated your position he doesn't have the balls to fight for you, even just for your respect.
At least he is keeping in contact with the kids. I hope he will just get the papers filed so you can both move forward with your lives M. Take care of you!
Hugs!!
Michelle
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I think he is licking his wounds. He knows he has made tons of mistakes and perhaps is keeping low until he can stand to look himself in the mirror again. Hope you are doing well otherwise.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Ah your kids are adorable and funny and are welcome to come stay over here with you anytime! BF was very taken with your son and said, he's a sensitive little boy and very intelligent (he got that right hey).
As for H..its perhaps not surprising? Remember I said though, couldnt you give him a sign you were interested at least to hear him out when he said he wanted you back? Seeing as your reply was no, I want a D, immediately. If I were him, I'd feel you were pretty damn done with me.
You said, I'm not going to tell him how to do it anymore, its up to him. And so I said, could you consider giving him a tiny crack at least, like when he told you he was thinking how to convince you, you ignored it and I said, could you have said "Thanks" or "let me know when you have".. or some opening at all?
I am sorry he has gone very quiet. Yes, perhaps he is speaking to her, but when you told me she phoned him to ask if he was ok with his decision and he said he was fine and she said, fine, ok and put the phone down (apparently?) I felt.. hmm, wait till that REALLY sinks in with her, shes not ok about it at all and is likely to go nuts and want to rake over it with him and give him hell! So maybe he COULD be in contact with her, but I still feel the A for him is over, done, no going back this time.
Why dont you just talk to him? Say you were hoping he WOULD come up with something to convince you, that you need him to pull out the big guns now?? Your sitch isnt the same as Bobbi's.. he said he wanted you back and ow meant nothing to him and you had the choice...but on the face of it, you turned him down flat?
I wish I was back in Greece.. its rubbish here !!!! x
HI floyd101, havent seen you before, at my side of the woods, have I? Welcome...!! (effort to use English phrases-LOL)
Yes, assumption about the part of him being in contact with her. But after what has happened the last couple of years, I cant help it, I wouldnt be surprised if they slept together last night
So, this morning, being fed up with this "quiet" phase that isnt going to change, I sent him a note saying what the heck are you doing? Using the same technique again?
His reply was "Maria, isnt there a chance we can get back together again?"
TO which I replied "of course there is (in sarcastic tone). If you stop being in love with her, tell her you want back with me because you love me and not because of other reaons like the kids etc., and most importantly if I feel the man I fought for the last couple of years really loves me and is not seing me as an obligation or "familiarity" then we would have A chance. If the last one was true, the other two would be no issue. But since you cant convince me for any of the above, I guess we dont"
His reply was "I am in no contact with her and I am definitely not in love with her. You've told me to tell her before but since she is really out of my life I cant see how it is important to tell her anything about what I want or would do since it is none of her business. And if you think I dont love you, you are wrong"...
Note: last time we spoke he said he feels he wants/has no problem to share things with me about her and their A, but he wants to keep her out of our life, he doesnt want to tell her anything about me or us. K
