Refrigerator!!!! The alternate appliance applications didn't occur to me right away.
I can understand how you feel about the contents of her refrigerator and the message it sends to you. On the upside, she wants them in her life, unlike some spouses who leave. Kids need both parents.
When my former spouse left and chose to become a one hour a week (if that) dinner dad, I was shocked, upset and felt a further sense of betrayal. Blowing me off is one thing, blowing off your, my, our children is another. Guess what. I had no control over the amount of time (or lack thereof) he spent with the kids, it was all his choice.
And I had to change.
Big. Time.
It's all about boundaries, buddy.
Do what's healthy for your mind, body, spirit.
Let her go so she can figure out what she's supposed to learn.
