New here, this is my story...

[sandi2]

I've prayed and prayed, but nothing. How can this be a good thing?

How are you praying? That makes a difference. If we pray that God would do what is best for all concerned, then we can rest in knowing that we will have the best considering the choices that we humans have made. Just b/c something doesn't go like you want it to.....in the time you want it to happen.....doesn't mean God is not doing anything. I believe He is always working things for the good to those that believe in Him and are called to His purpose. That is what the scripture promises.

So, does that make any sense? I've also learned to pray that things are done in God's perfect timing, b/c my timing certainly is not "perfect".....but His is and that sure makes a big difference. It's hard to wait if we are doing it in our own energy.....but if we do it in "faith"...then that makes a huge difference.

I think the reason your W responded the way she has the past few days, is b/c of your 180's--and she has been taken by surprise. That is what 180's are suppose to do. So the fact that she is saying what she is....is really a good sign. She sees that you are not laying down and trying to act as if you are "dying" and that has surprised her.....and in fact, has made her mad! When you think about it, it's kind of funny. The thing is for you not to allow what she says to change you back into a needy, clingy, fearful man. You see, you are already wondering if this is going to go in the opposite direction......why?......b/c she said that she couldn't believe you would act like you have over "her" wanting a D? Can't you see that she is turning the whole thing around to make it appear that "now" you are the one who wants the D? She knows exactly who wanted out in this R. Don't fall for her little games. This is very, very typical of a WAW who has wanted to file for a D and when the LBH used the DB technique, it would surprise her and hurt her ego a bit and she would respond just like your W has done. Don't dare back up and play the part of a pitiful LBH who is begging his WAW to stay with him. You have to trust this plan in order to be affective. How can you act self-confident if you don't trust what you are doing? BTW, there isn't anything about DBing that goes againt Christian principles and that always made me feel good about it, so you can pray all the time you are applying DB.

I'll be thinking about you today.