I'm sorry you find yourself here, however, it's a place you'll find resources you wouldn't find elsewhere.
Just a couple of quick heads up on the DB Forum;
The moderators will ban you from the boards if you put any kind of personal info in your posts, i.e., email address.
If you keep to one thread it makes it easier to find & post to you. So, either Newcomers or Separated, etc.
By reading & posting on other's threads, you'll gain a lot of information, plus make some friends & gain support.
I see that you've read DB. Actually, Divorce Remedy may be more suited to you if you can get a copy.
There is almost always another person in the picture, so you may want to find out as much as you can regarding infidelity thru the forum here & also books such as, "Not Just Friends".
As R&R says, there are positive stories & there is hope. The sooner you gather intelligence, the better it will be for you , and the direction your situation takes.
Regardless of the outcome of your M, I think you'll find that you'll come thru this a stronger & more evolved person by taking advantage of what's offered here.
