Yes, I would ignore him then. Let him suck air while you continue on with what you feel is best for the kids. And don't get dragged into his drama anymore.
So he emails me this am saying since I am obstructing Tuesday nights, he will no longer do me any more favors. I think his idea of doing favors is like being a normal person! So that basically means he's planning on being a full-out major pita don't you think!!! B/c D9 missed school last Thursday and Friday (sinus infection) he says it's best she miss Terrific Tuesday this week to catch up on homework. I just forwarded it to my L. December 7th can't come soon enough!!!
If it is true that your daughter has work to catch up on, then you should have her stay to do it, but if it is done she should go as usual. And, being her mother you don't need HIM to tell you that. Ignore, and do what's right.
Stick to the schedule, and if you email anything keep it short and say you are trying to keep the schedule consistent for the kids because with the divorce there is enough change in their lives. End of story. Whenever you write you have to think how the court will take what you say because you know he will keep anything he can use. Or, go ahead and stick in how, since you were home with them for x many years, AND homeschooled them, YOU are definitely aware of what they can and cannot handle workwise and outside activitywise. He is getting info. about homeschooling to use in court. I would guess he is trying to show that you didn't school them correctly or enough and will try to use what he finds as evidence of that. ...slither...slither....
So did you get your proposal done? Sorry if I kept you too long. I was worried about you but as usual you are doing just fine.
As for the kids you still have them more of the time but he is trying really hard to live up to his image(snake in the grass). I would start getting all of that information together so that your L can present it.
I suppose I was lucky that ex was in such a fog he only wanted his baseball cards and some of his clothes. I got everything else...mess and all. He has expressed regret that he didn't put in more time with the kids, but really at this point they don't want to be with him more than they have to be. Divorce is an ugly thing.
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I did, but the pastor got called away on emergency, so I meet (try to anyway) with him this afternoon.
Tough morning. Ok, last night was fun. I had D9 at Terrific Tuesday and then went to dinner at McDonalds, and then home for homework and bed. X didn't show to pick her up. I actually figured out why. He had her antibiotics so he was thinking I would have to drop her off to get them or something. I just went to the pharmacy and got some for her so everything was fine. X didn't call either.
I dropped D9 off at X's this am to get her glasses (she didn't wear them to school yesterday & left them at his apt.). The door was locked. I dropped her off at school and he walks up to us, trying to give her medicine. I told him she already had it. He had her glasses also. I said thanks, or something, and then walked D9 to her class. X walked off to his car I guess.
On my way to my car in the parking lot, I see X coming back walking in my direction. I sped walked trying to at least make it over to the crossing guard, a friend who knows what's going on. He started yelling at me, "What the f*** are you doing? What the hell are you doing--you should have emailed me to let me know D9 was safe (I checked email when I got home just now and he had emailed me saying he had her meds and didn't understand why I was having problems with transferring the kids Tuesday!!) Um, he knew I had D9 so why wouldn't she be safe with me???
He shouted: I'm going to have to try to go for full custody and bring out your suicidal records from the dr. (I was severely depressed almost to that point when he dropped the bomb and found out my brother had a brain tumor later that week).
Meanwhile shouting this when we're at the elementary school and kids are there walking to their classes.
I told him not to speak to me to like that (after he said the f word to me) and did make the mistake when he asked about getting her medicine, I told him I planned to pick it up this afternoon when I got S15, so S15 could grab it out the frig. I am shaky after this. I drove home checking my rear view a little worried he would trail me in the car, but it was time for him to go to work...
X just called and told me he checked with D9 and asked her if she had her medicine, and she said no. He must have pulled her out of class to do that. So he said I need to go give it to her.
I emailed him back that she had them at 7pm last night and 7 am today, and she must not have understood what he was asking I guess. (Maybe dealing with a crazy dad makes one nervous?)
