You're looking to help new LBS to this...that is comendable.
AND hard to do.
While every MLCer is the mostly the same in generalities, the similarities break down in the specifics.
And that is just for an MLCer.
The tactics needed to confront an MLC vary based upon the MLC...yes some things are standard, but the when to use them, when to do them...this is a fine line.
Not to mention the differnce between a mild MLC and a severe MLC, a WAS (Walk away Spouse) in all their variations and that is not even taking into account their history or personality.
There is no one size fits all answer. Newcomers gives you 'tough love' advice...MLC gives you take it as long as you can advice. Seperated is a bit of both...
Do not be afraid to find out from the people giving advice, how their marriage or lack therefore of is working out based on their advice. Truth be told...some of that tough love advice? Someone would be in a lye pit if that was tried on me.
As for trying to convince you to stay married? Screw that. If anyone has to convince you who searched out and found this site to stay married...you aren't going to be able to hack the REALLY hard parts of this.
Planners have the hardest time doing this, the landmarks to progress are few and far between, and most planners need that.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
