I went out and bought myself some new clothes today. It was time to get rid of the bigger ones since I have lost weight. Got myself a new belt to.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Also big that your W slipped in a Happy Birthday. I haven't gotten one of those in two years.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
Thanks. I have a friend who really came down hard on me for not taking better care of myself. So I am buying more new shirts this week that have style, getting a stylish hair cut. I have been working on my apartment to keep it looking nice. I am doing somethings that I haven't really done this past year.
I am trying to take pride in myself and my home and my car. It is taking a bit of work, but it is getting there.
I was told to spend at least 10 minutes in the mirror checking everything over before I go out.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Also having to remember to shave each day and not chew with my mouth open.
The details I am getting are good and coming at me hard.
Someone is working to clean up my act completely so that with time I will feel better about myself and maybe, just maybe, might W might notice. But either way, it is about me feeling good about how I look and my life.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Sorry for bumping but Kevin, 25, and anyone else out there that can check out my sitch and give advice I would greatly appreciate it. Don't know if I did the right thing as far as DBusting.
Kevin, I am doing much of what you are, for me, not for my spouse. I think the more organized we are, the better we look/feel, the better off we will be.
It is hard enough to feel stressed about my marriage, but if my house is a cluttered mess, if I schlump along in old, boring clothes, if I don't like how my body looks or how out-of-shape I feel, it is that much worse. That was me last Jan/Feb. This summer/fall I have lost 13 pounds, gotten my hair cut/highlighted, bought new clothes two weeks ago, and really focused on cleaning the house and organizing things. Not trying to hijack, just agreeing with you that these are all GOOD, necessary things. It is so nice to come home to a house that is in order at the end of the day. One less thing to weigh you down, right?
And although it is about us, not them, it is still nice when they notice. My H had to spend the night at my house Saturday night b/c I went out of town. He commented that the house was 'spotless'. So, yes, they do notice...
I am with you. They do notice when you make REAL AUTHENTIC LASTING changes. Anyone can pull it off for a day or 2. It is when it is consistent that they will start to notice.
I am having to learn how to be consistent which takes work when you are so used to the old way of presenting yourself and your life.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
The girls and I went to our C appointment tonight and we all have homework to do.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Good luck on the homework Kevin! Keep the changes going.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
