Question

[lonelywolf]

In DR, it says that you should set goals for the other person's behavior (i.e. - I want you to give me 30 minutes of undivided attention every day, or I want you to take me on a date every other week or whatever it is you want them to work on) and to let your spouse know what your goals are.

At this point, it seems like you need to set some very clear boundaries and let your H know there are things he needs to do. Don't be pushy or nag, though. If you have DR handy, re-read the section on goal setting. It has some good advice I wish I had known about before the separation.