Great to hear that you daughter is coping with the divorce ok.
What is wrong with winter for you? Do you ski or ice skate or compete in curling or hockey? Are you not excited about the winter Olympics? I bet Canada wins a good amount of medals as is usually the case with the host country. I think Vancouver is going to make for a fabulous Olympics - first time the winter Olympics are being held at a coastal city.
I think winter would be an excellent opportunity for you and NGF to curl up together by a cozy fire every once in a while.
I'm getting my mind in Canadian mode. The kids and I are going for 4 days during Thanksgiving to the Vancouver area. I noticed that all the hotels are booked with prices about 4-5 times the norm for the winter Olympics in February. I've also started showing the kids some of the places I may take them this next summer in Alberta.
You sound well grounded in your attitude towards your STBXW. No reason to get into any deep relationship conversations anymore. If you ever get to feeling the need respond, just have this image pop up in your head...
Great to hear that you daughter is coping with the divorce ok.
What is wrong with winter for you? Do you ski or ice skate or compete in curling or hockey? Are you not excited about the winter Olympics? I bet Canada wins a good amount of medals as is usually the case with the host country. I think Vancouver is going to make for a fabulous Olympics - first time the winter Olympics are being held at a coastal city.
I think winter would be an excellent opportunity for you and NGF to curl up together by a cozy fire every once in a while.
I'm getting my mind in Canadian mode. The kids and I are going for 4 days during Thanksgiving to the Vancouver area. I noticed that all the hotels are booked with prices about 4-5 times the norm for the winter Olympics in February. I've also started showing the kids some of the places I may take them this next summer in Alberta.
You sound well grounded in your attitude towards your STBXW. No reason to get into any deep relationship conversations anymore. If you ever get to feeling the need respond, just have this image pop up in your head...
Previously on Knots Landing,,,,actualy from another well read thread:
"I'll say it since none of the other women was willing to admit it.....women are vengeful. Payback, whether we initiate it or not, is almost always viewed with relish."
This was a response from a poster to my question on whether revenge (on OP or WAS) was a gender thing.
Personally, I am at a point now where I wish my XW no harm at all. Quite the contary...ok., my ego gets a little inflated when I receive complimentary e-mails from her or I sense that she misses me or that my Xstepdaughters call. That is about it, I really could not care less about her old boyfriend (Pedro / picture courtesy of Kerry) or new boyfriend or future ones.
Everything is going well on the NGF front we see each other on a regular basis and I / We have decided to seriously reduce the time I spend with her kids. So far seems to be working very well. Last night we decided to watch a movie together and honestly it was nice to be sans enfants. I can't remember the last time that happened.
That was a nice pat on the back by your ex, shows growth on her part. You're wise in not responding or replying in kind. That type of sentiment should come out when it's meaningful, no need to be reciprocal. At most acknowledge and let go.
"Thanks, it's been a tough road to hoe."
Dismiss my babble, Bubba.. I just like posting on your thread.
I did not respond at all let alone in kind...nor will I. I chose to ignore it becasue it is too little too late and what could I possibly say? Other than perhaps thank-you and I am the same guy I was a while ago, too bad you had your head so far up your a$$ you could not see daylight. It does not affect me as it once did. Last year, I would have gone nuts! I am not saying I could not care less ....because it is always nice to receive compliments....but I can honestly say that I have let go. I do not have any reaction to her when I see her...it's sad in a way because I feel like I wasted at least a decade. Thank God for D8/ soon to be 9. That gift that XW has given me, I will always be thankful for....
I'm not the same person I was a year, two years or even six months ago. Yes, my underlying core has remained the same. But I no longer walk on eggshells, feel intense blinding guilt for everything, look to someone else for my sense of meaning and am more at ease in all I do. Oh yes, and understand the need to face my fears.
So you're the same guy, only better than before. At least that's my take on it.
