Wow PDT. That post you just made caused me to tear up as well. I think as I was sitting in my bathroom yesterday crying my eyes out so my d8 would not hear me I did the same for my WAW.
Oh, me and my powder room @ 2am, with the exhaust fan on and my face in a hand towel to muffle the sobs, were a frequent visitor to my sitch. Very therapeutic, and better to not let the family see your weakness.
Uh, yeah that post had me in tears as well (at work). I suspect that I haven't fully given H to the Lord. I will work on that and your post is a start to visualizing it.
I have given my life to the Lord so why can't I give H's?
Thank you so much for the advice. I knew you would have it.
I have to get back into the mindset of moving on with my life. Talking with H the other night makes me soft and I can't do that to myself.
Thanks all, especially you Puppy!!!
M:36 H:36 M 3 Y T 8 Y No kids Bomb 6/30/08 PA I filed 9/29/09 D final 1/22/2010
Hi Belle, so sorry again you are going through this. You've got some great advice in the prior posts. They more eloquently sum up what finally worked in my marriage.
You've wanted this to work for so long...
You husband NEEDs to be the one to meet you in the middle. It is hard hard work and he needs to man up! You can't do it for him, you can guilt him into it, or even pray him into it. HE has to do it. And he may never get there... And if he can't, he can never be the husband that you need and deserve!
This is why you are filing, and moving on. I am sure he is miserable, my husband was too. But only HE can change his misery.
I hope God does grace him with the ability to move forward in his life, but he has to be open to receiving that grace. It doesn't sound like he is yet.
My heart goes out to you. Stay strong!
Me-36 H-30 T-7yr, M-3yr DivorceBusting Saved my marriage! sep 6-08 to 12-08. Together again, things are good!
