I Second what Thinker said. Especially these parts:
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Note that apathetic physical contact ("begrudging shoulder rubs given only when asked, limp hugs that say you'd rather be somewhere else, "Well you'd better hurry up and get it over with before I fall asleep" sex) actively destroy love (and your H's self confidence).
Can't tell you how many times I got that one. Not saying I'm innocent. Just saying.
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Criticism ("You work too long!" "You didn't wipe down the counters well enough!") is a crushing love destroyer.
Can't tell you how spot on this is. Well, if you wanted the counters (or fill in the blank) done a specific way, why did you ask me/expect e to do it? This was a HUGE one for me. I often did things, without being asked, or being asked, and I thought I did a good job, only to be met with here's how you did it wrong. After a while of these, to he!! with it, YOU do it then. That then becomes, "my H doesn't do anything for me." Not true!
