I am glad that you brought up this topic as alot of us wrestle with what is the right decision to make. My husband started his A 9 months ago (MLC about year and a half now). I found this website 2 months in and started Db techniques. He lives at home, is in the same bed, will even snuggle, has said that he loves me. I thought things were moving in a positive direction. Then just last night I found plans for his vacation (planned long time ago) are now going to include OW. We own our own business so taking separate vacations have happened in past. He left out a folder which included what he needed to pack including 'OW sunscreen, etc." I wondered if him leaving out the folder was supposed to get a reaction from me since it was so obvious. I had wondered if he was planning on going with her, but it wasn't out in the open. Now he knows that I know. I surprised myself by calmly keeping my mouth shut. If it hadn't been so blatant, I was going to let it go, not ask him about the vacation and continue DB techniques. But it seems like leaving out the info was a test. So, is it time for tough love? I too have read that it doesn't work for MLC so I'd love to hear anyones opinion. If he was spending 90% of his time with me, do I throw that out the window? Or was I 'winning' since he only gave OW two weekends a month?
Me - 38 Husband - 40 MLC! Together 12 years Married 11 years Still the love of my life Forever only lasted 10 years before his MLC and affair
