71,

After reading this ....

I think you are thinking that the Emotional , and Legal side of a D are the same thing...

Signing the paper doesn't take away all of those feelings....

I agree with BND.....

Why can't you just be still and do the work on yourself....

Even if this doesn't work out the way you would like, at least you won't drag everything old into a new relationship with you...

Do it for you, not the Marriage....

The results are worth it.