can anyone give me advice on what to do next? She is really reaching and I am there for her.
Sorry WTTB. I read too fast in the last post and noticed that she was hiding the bipolar.
As for the current advice, understand that much of what she may have been doing is due to the illness. She has has as little understanding of what is going on in her head as you do. A bipolar once explained it to me as (not exact quote) "Your emotions feel like a candle in a hurricane. You are consumed by them." So be very understanding of her.
Also, she has confided this diagnosis to you. Do not give this info out to anybody; it is hers to give out.
Finally, all you can do is be there for her. Listen to what she is going through. Try to understand her emotions. Praise her when she takes steps to overcome the illness (taking meds, seeing psych, refuting impulsive thoughts, etc.). Consider this diagnosis for both of you. You will both be affected and it will be both of your responsibilities to control it.
