It is good to hear you had a nice time with your W on her Birthday. You have done so well at detaching that Im'e jealous! I am getting better though I feel.
I have noticed that even though you are keeping your boundries but still open to compimise with W and I think thats great. Hopefully she will see just what she has with you.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez