Do I even care what happens anymore?

[aflowergurlie]

Hey BC - Seems like there must have been something in the atmosphere last week as I too was struggling with negativity/depression/anger/jealousy more than I have in quite a long time.

My H started his own laundry thing months ago when we were still sharing a bathroom and closet. His wasn't out of trying to send me a message for doing more around the house though, as I was already regularly doing all the laundry and housecleaning. His was more out of a "I'm living my own life, want to be a man and take care of everything for myself" sort of logic. Even though I knew it meant he was distancing from me in yet one more way and it hurt, I never said a word about it and he never said anything either. Plus, I was constantly faced with his new clothing and underwear of the life that I had dreamed of, all the things I had wanted and asked him to do/be with me, that he is now doing/being with OW.

Now, he has his own hamper in his bedroom and has been doing all his own laundry since then. And to be honest, it has been definitely easier doing laundry now because he usually had the majority of clothes that had to be done. So, maybe you can see the positive in it for lessening your work-load if he continues doing it himself. Only exception was for last week when H asked me to help him fold his laundry for the first time since he started doing it all on his own. Go figure?

I'm going to try to implement some more things off of your list of the things you've been doing that have been producing positive results. Thanks for the tips.