FG,

I may be way off here, but I think this date has set a negative expectation in your mind.

It isn't a date for a picnic, I understand. But it also doesn't have to suck really bad either.

Whatever happens is gonna happen , whether you feel crappy about it or not.

You ( and he ) both think that the legal AND emotional side of this of gonna be over when the Gavel falls.....very wrong.

It is only gonna affect one side of that....

All the problems, and all of his spinning are STILL gonna be there, All of those feelings do not go away with a swing of the hammer.

The issues, the deep rooted ones, are still gonna be there until he reaches the end of this tunnel.

This seperation, it can be viewed as a positive thing if you can wrap your brain around that.

It will give you both the time you need to heal from the issues that are plaguing both of you.

Find a way to take a step today, then one tomorrow, then the next day..........etc

Sometimes......sometimes, the things we think are gonna kill us, are the best things to happen to us...

How are YOU gonna handle this ?