My situation is similiar to yours except for the young kids. If you read my post, you will see that my wife has continued to rebel, pull away or what ever you want to call it. She will not kiss me, hasn't unsolicetedly touched me or even said I look nice in at least four years. I went to the bar a couple of times when she didn't come home when she said she would (after waiting 4 hours) to see what she was up to and found her flirting, I have had her butt bump a guy at a bar in front of me who butted her first, I didn't even get mad, when she told me about the affair. I don't know what to say, as I am trying to figure out whether to continue or to get a divorce. Your situation is harder than mine, due to the ages of your kids. I think I still love her and always wanted to stay married to her, till death, but likewise it would be very emotional if she actually treated me with even a small dose of intimacy. I know it takes two to make anything work, and if one doesn't want to work, you can't control the other. I am starting to think it comes down to what a person is willing to live with. Each situation is different and I think I am on here trying to make up my mind, maybe vent my feelings and frustrations, so I can think more clearly. I really feel for you as with kids, and especially a father who wants to be a dad, divorce will make it extremely hard to be the dad you want. However that being said, if she isn't truly interested in making it work, she can pull out anytime, and you will be forced to divorce. I can live like her brother and neither one of us will have what we truly wanted, but she can do that, and I only got married to have a soul partner who I could love and work for and to help her and take care of her. I don't know anymore why she got married, she won't say. Sorry I am not helping here, but at least you know there is someone else out there, likewise I do.
